Thinking about this son that I will be bringing in to the
world and the daughter that I already have, my mind has been drawn lately on
how I am to mother a girl and a boy. While instilling a basis for moral growth and
character for each child will be the same, both has a gender role that I need
to train them in. My main thing for both my son and daughter will be to teach
them gender etiquette.
The world defines “feminism” as equal rights for women
socially, politically, and economically. While I do believe that both men and
women should be treated equally, I sometimes worry that so-called feminists are
erasing what makes us feminine in what seems to be a waging war against males.
I will say that I am a feminist, but definitely not the social activist kind.
Rather, I believe in the beauty of what makes women feminine – gentleness, cultivation,
refinement, modest, propriety. In short, I believe in being a lady.
I believe in the power of my gender. I believe that women
have a role that men can not assume, and vice versa. I am so grateful to have
the respect that womanhood has granted me – to have doors opened for me, to be
courted, to be the heart of the home, to give birth. Being a woman is amazing.
I want to raise Evelyn to be a lady. And being a lady doesn’t mean being
submissive and overrun, but rather respect for self with high standards in
thought and deed.
The counterpart of a lady is a gentleman. I’m still wrapping
my head around the idea of raising a boy. As I tackled these thoughts in my
head the other night, it just occurred to me how easy it will be afterall. I
will raise him to be a man. That’s simple! I know what I want to see in a man,
for I married one :) Just as I love being a woman, I love the role of a man.
The two are so intertwined.
I am so grateful to be a mother. What a humbling experience
that I get to go through every day. It’s not always roses, and lately it hardly
has been, but it’s always unconditional in its love.
“Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly
exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrificing. Though it
carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into
the very realm of the fountains of life, and makes her co-partner with the
Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life…. No language can express
the power and beauty and heroism of a mother’s love. …” – David O. McKay
you took the words right out of my mouth! i'm so glad someone feels the same about feminism as i do. happy mother's day, you beautiful woman!
ReplyDeleteTHis is beautiful ! Love your post. And happy mother's day to you Kendra !!
ReplyDeleteHappy Mothers Day girl!!!! Beautiful picture!!!
ReplyDeleteSo sweet. Happy Mothers Day to you!
ReplyDeleteI would love to say you took the words right out of my mouth, but I can't because I could never write like this, rather, you say perfectly, lovingly, and so correctly what I wish to say.
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing woman. I love this post. I love what you said so much, it holds a special place in my heart on this day.
This picture is without words, beautiful, touching and personal. I just love it.
Happy Mother's Day to you Kendra. You are a good example to all of us, thank you.
Shauna
I couldn't agree with you more. I never thought much about feminism, until I got pregnant. Then I realized (and even more so when I gave birth) that women are POWERFUL. I became so proud of my womanhood, of the things that I could do, that a man could never do. I had always believed in different, but equal, gender roles, but I had never before come to the conclusion that women are stronger when we build on our strengths, rather than hiding them away in an effort to be "more like men." Where is the power in trying to be like someone else?! We have to be ourselves, and our very best selves at that! Women are amazing!
ReplyDeleteaaaaaw. i like this. a lot.
ReplyDeleteyou win.
Happy Momma's Day!
Kendra, I LOVED this post. I couldn't have said it better myself. In fact, I loved it so much I pinned this whole post! :)
ReplyDeleteAmen to all of this! Happy Mother's Day!
ReplyDeleteThis is beautiful! Thank you.
ReplyDeleteSo well said! Love this post. :) In fact, I stole your beautiful quote. You will be a great mother to both a girl and a boy.
ReplyDeleteLove that quote & the picture at the end. Happy Mother's day!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! You really hit some great points. Happy Mother's Day.
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loved everything about this post! the precious picture and amazing quotes made my day!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a beautiful post. In the future(the far future) when I have children, I hope to raise them the way that you are going to be raising yours :)
ReplyDeleteHope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!