Mothers Day


Sunday, May 13, 2012

Thinking about this son that I will be bringing in to the world and the daughter that I already have, my mind has been drawn lately on how I am to mother a girl and a boy. While instilling a basis for moral growth and character for each child will be the same, both has a gender role that I need to train them in. My main thing for both my son and daughter will be to teach them gender etiquette.

The world defines “feminism” as equal rights for women socially, politically, and economically. While I do believe that both men and women should be treated equally, I sometimes worry that so-called feminists are erasing what makes us feminine in what seems to be a waging war against males. I will say that I am a feminist, but definitely not the social activist kind. Rather, I believe in the beauty of what makes women feminine – gentleness, cultivation, refinement, modest, propriety. In short, I believe in being a lady.

I believe in the power of my gender. I believe that women have a role that men can not assume, and vice versa. I am so grateful to have the respect that womanhood has granted me – to have doors opened for me, to be courted, to be the heart of the home, to give birth. Being a woman is amazing. I want to raise Evelyn to be a lady. And being a lady doesn’t mean being submissive and overrun, but rather respect for self with high standards in thought and deed.

The counterpart of a lady is a gentleman. I’m still wrapping my head around the idea of raising a boy. As I tackled these thoughts in my head the other night, it just occurred to me how easy it will be afterall. I will raise him to be a man. That’s simple! I know what I want to see in a man, for I married one :) Just as I love being a woman, I love the role of a man. The two are so intertwined.

I am so grateful to be a mother. What a humbling experience that I get to go through every day. It’s not always roses, and lately it hardly has been, but it’s always unconditional in its love.

“Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrificing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountains of life, and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life…. No language can express the power and beauty and heroism of a mother’s love. …” – David O. McKay
While I am grateful to be a mother today, I am most grateful to be a woman. Happy Mothers/Womens Day!

15 comments:

  1. you took the words right out of my mouth! i'm so glad someone feels the same about feminism as i do. happy mother's day, you beautiful woman!

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  2. THis is beautiful ! Love your post. And happy mother's day to you Kendra !!

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  3. Happy Mothers Day girl!!!! Beautiful picture!!!

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  4. So sweet. Happy Mothers Day to you!

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  5. I would love to say you took the words right out of my mouth, but I can't because I could never write like this, rather, you say perfectly, lovingly, and so correctly what I wish to say.

    You are an amazing woman. I love this post. I love what you said so much, it holds a special place in my heart on this day.

    This picture is without words, beautiful, touching and personal. I just love it.

    Happy Mother's Day to you Kendra. You are a good example to all of us, thank you.

    Shauna

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  6. I couldn't agree with you more. I never thought much about feminism, until I got pregnant. Then I realized (and even more so when I gave birth) that women are POWERFUL. I became so proud of my womanhood, of the things that I could do, that a man could never do. I had always believed in different, but equal, gender roles, but I had never before come to the conclusion that women are stronger when we build on our strengths, rather than hiding them away in an effort to be "more like men." Where is the power in trying to be like someone else?! We have to be ourselves, and our very best selves at that! Women are amazing!

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  7. aaaaaw. i like this. a lot.
    you win.
    Happy Momma's Day!

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  8. Kendra, I LOVED this post. I couldn't have said it better myself. In fact, I loved it so much I pinned this whole post! :)

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  9. Amen to all of this! Happy Mother's Day!

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  10. So well said! Love this post. :) In fact, I stole your beautiful quote. You will be a great mother to both a girl and a boy.

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  11. Love that quote & the picture at the end. Happy Mother's day!

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  13. loved everything about this post! the precious picture and amazing quotes made my day!

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  14. This is such a beautiful post. In the future(the far future) when I have children, I hope to raise them the way that you are going to be raising yours :)

    Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!

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